I've watched a lot of bg3 streams with people talking about how shove is incredibly fun in the game.
Personally, it doesn't bother me. I enjoy it, although I don't use it all that often. Rarely, in fact, come to think of it.
Anyway. I think the idea that shove needs to change isn't a concern shared by the masses. I'm not saying you're wrong for wanting something else. I just think there's a point where you have to concede that your opinion on the subject isn't reflecting the general pulse.