Okay, first, let me go into Avocatus Diaboli mode. This sort of thing actually happened in Bg2, as well. If you were Romancing Aerie and brought Haer Dalis along, he'd steal your girl and there was nothing you could do about it.
Alright, now for the real answer.
It has to do with.. 'Modern writing', and 'the message'. It's so on the nose, and so apparant that it actually breaks the fourth wall, for me. All the girls on the team are emasculated, capable, take matters into their own hands and all their troubles are created by external forces, which they face head on. No problem there, if it weren't for the fact that all the guys on the team are effeminate, whiney, selfish and irresponsible and couldn't make a decent decision if they tried. And I'll put Halsin as the top contender for these traits.
Of course, everyone is gay if you want them to be, but also if you don't want them to be - Wyll is going to woo you with his ballet moves regardless. Astarion will call you darling the entire campaign, and not once do you get to address that. Gale, who previously dated the Goddess of Magic, suddenly declares he's in love with my sweaty, murderous Dwarven Berserker, back hair and all, who actively ignores his longwinded conversations and refused his quest constantly.
Not so long ago, I mentioned Mass Effect on these forums, saying how that was way too easy with the romances. IN the last Panel from Hell, they were really proud of how they did the romances, how it wasn't just 'do their quest and bang'
But it's WORSE than that. At least in Mass Effect, there were the obvious flirt options to initiate a romance line. Not here. Everyone wants you and will come for you. There'not even a do-their-quest. It's talk to them, and say either yes or no, and for most of what I've seen, that yes goes to sex RIGHT from there. And.. it stays there, too. UNtil you reach the epilogue, it hardly comes up again.
And the worst part is, you better pick one, too - because everyone will be gunning for you if you don't. Even Withers complains if you don't. HE even complains to the NPC's they don't.
