I'm not saying that vampire ascendant can or should be good, Astarion was never "good" to begin with. What I'm arguing is that after ascension it seems impossible for them to stay together unless Tav is a spawn. So, what happened to all those "feelings" that he had for her before. Even if, assuming he lost all of it, which seems to counter what Raphael says, wouldn't a cunning person want to keep a strong ally nearby?