Your first point is about role-playing. You were given the opportunity role-play your choice, whether Astarion or Shadowheart approve is neither here nor there. You will make choices where both of them approve; where only one or the other approves; or where one approves but the other is indifferent.
The issue with immigrants and refugees is not a modern issue, it's been around for a couple of thousand years or so.
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Unlike Hogwarts Legacy, which gives no option of what pronouns you wish to be referred, eliminating your gendered pronouns for they/them without consent, or turning 18th century Scotland half Asian and black. That's just an example of nakedly political games. This game is fairly well restrained, I don't think it deserves the flak other games should have gotten.
It's funny that when the books were first published nobody said a thing about genders and pronouns because it hadn't become fashionable or the mass psychosis hadn't begun. Anybody old enough to remember the last mass psychosis some decades ago? Bulimia and anorexia. Where did they come from and where did they go? Why did it only affect certain countries? And before anyone states the obvious - yes, I know that anorexia and bulimia are real and are still here.
Why does a game developer or any company have to seek your consent about pronouns? How fucking entitled are you?
18th century Scotland?