While this information obviously won't make any difference to you now, in case anyone else is reading this thread - if you never consume tadpoles, those dialogue popups to try and convince the others to use powers don't pop up. Beyond trying out what the Illithid powers were the very first time they popped up in conversation, i haven't used them or eaten any tadpoles, and I've not had any conversations options with allies regarding tadpoles except for us all to commiserate that having parasites in our brain isn't fun.
And if you use Lae'zel in the Creche area you described, you can choose to
adopt the egg yourself and raise it as a warrior
I started playing this after the first patch, so I don't know if those story points were added in with that and were actually missing when you played
It may also make a difference that I'm playing Lae'zel as my main, not sure if there are subtle changes based on who you pick
