I'm usually not active on social media and forums. But, for some reason, this thread and others have become a laughing stock on facebook bg3 groups by a community that calls itself inclusive and welcoming. So, since any words of criticism were called incels' crying and kinksshaming, I decided to add my two cents too. To get the whole picture, three facts need to be stated. First of all I was really looking forward to the release of this game and had a great time until the third act.I don't remember the last time I was so interested in anything. Secondly, I decided to romance Shadowheart only because I saw another thread about her not agreeing to polygamy. And finally, my ex-wife cheated on me over 2 years ago. When I finished the Shadowheart quest and saw her banter with Halsin, I thought it was strange but I didn't care much about it. Unfortunately, as fate would have it, when I met the drow twins, I had Halsin on my team. You must understand that the game absorbed me so much that after completing the conversation, I often reloaded to see what other dialogue options looked like. For some unknown reason when Larian decided to throw it in my face that even my fictional in-game character wasn't enough to satisfy the person he was involved with, the trauma, fears and insecurities I thought I had overcome resurfaced. Fortunately, only for a moment. But I was so embarrassed by my reaction that I didn't even check if others were also bothered by it.Two weeks have passed and I still can't bring myself to play the game again. For me, games have always been a safe haven that allowed me to break away from the gray everyday life. It seems those days are over. Even though I probably won't finish the game, I wanted to thank you all for deciding to raise this topic, thanks to which I could accidentally end up here. Knowing that even people without life baggage found this scene disturbing is... easing. Since there are people here who decided to give very enlightened advice about relationships, I will also give you one. If you are ever in a relationship and your partner starts behaving in a similar way, not as primitive as here, I don't know how shameless you would have to be to do as the writer presented it, but if you start to feel that you are a third wheel in conversations and your partner starts talking too much about who they like. This is not a flag but a horn from hell that this relationship is over and your partner is simply too much of a coward to face you. I don't wish anyone to feel this indescribable feeling when you are betrayed by the person you loved the most and I'm sorry you had to read yet another post from a crying incel.
Hey Man, I truly understand how you feel. I was romancing Shadowheart as well, and was so engrossed in her story that I really took my time to play and enjoy the game. I have seen so much crazy things in this world, relationship-wise that I for once want a good happy ending story. I also find gaming as a way to escape reality, and find solace from the fk ups of this world. Perhaps the ability to do that in game, based on the choices we the players make, is the driving force for me to continue playing the game and actually enjoy the game- to get the journey and ending we want. I did the same thing as you did, I save the game to explore other options, out of curiosity, but I always go back to my 'timeline', to pick the decisions I actually want. And let me tell you, when I was in that Brothel scene, and figured out there is no way to avoid that SH interaction with the drow twins or with Halsin, instead of probably not going to the Brothel, or even just killing Halsin. And the fact that it throws it in my face that SH is actually the opposite of what I thought she would be. Because when you do explore her story enough she becomes so loving and caring and will only want to be with you. And I imagine myself being with someone, who shares the same ideals, I would want to be with someone who cares and be as loving as her, in dark times, through thick and thin, fairy tail ending-stuff like that... But during that scene, everything just went out of the window and she did a complete 180. And I feel so betrayed. After that I could not bear to continue playing the game anymore. Like the desire I have to actually finish the game, and the enjoyment I get from it is no longer there. And yes, I am also glad I have somewhere I can post my thoughts about this, so I am glad to be in this forum, and seeing there are other people who have the same perspective as I do, makes me feel a bit better. But I am telling you, for 4 weeks now, I have not been feeling myself, anymore. I do not have the desire to do anything, my motivation just plummeted. I am not doing good at work. And at home I basically do nothing as well. I try to distract myself by playing other games or by entertaining myself with other media such as reading or watching movies, anime, but none are enjoyable to me. I guess one of the factors is that there are barely other games that can compare to BG3 as far as immersion, and I got too deep into the immersion part but got so disappointed at the end. I hope you find solace, the same way as I did, knowing that you are not alone, we are not alone. Hopefully, time will help us forget this, and that the future will hold something bright for us.
