Gotta agree on magic items part... Finding a named magic item in BG 1 / BG 2 was a "wow" moment, but in BG3, although a lot of loot is useful and fills a niche, there is no "wow" factor. Armors and weapons do look great tho. I just reached the forge, so maybe that will change?
Charname Faces are mostly ugly, yea. After Solasta though, I can take it.
I'd be the first person to oppose appealing to certain minorities' "wants and demands", but those things are not in your face, and easily avoidable. They managed to make it an "option" for few who want it, but it's actually quite concealed for the rest of us. So no problems there.
Don't really understand your "negative" outlook for a game, which you played for 335 hours. The games I do not like never pass 1 hour "played" mark for me. So there are absolutely things here that hooked you and keep you entertained. Means it is a good game.
