If you're in a monogamous relationship with a companion, in this case Shadowheart, it's just weird that the writers decide to make her disappointed when denied the option to sleep with someone else. That's just wrong. There are certainly instances where such a reaction might be valid and for some players it might fit, but that should sort of still be the players choice.
is it that weird really? You engage your partner in a sex fantasy involving some drow that make you excited. Then when it is suggested that she can have some fantasy fullfilled as well, you deny her. That's a bit selfish. It should work both ways, you get your dirty fantasies and she gets hers. Why is your enjoyment the only one that matters when you decide to bring this experimenting into your relationship? I can see why that gets you a disapproval, though she still goes through with denying herself and doing things your way anyway.
At the point where you take this relationship to a pair of sex workers and suggest sexual experimenting with other people, you are not proposing a monogamous relationship any more. Your actions are your responsibility, the rules of monogamy apply the same to you as to everyone else.
That's kind of my point when I say that it should be player choice. If player wants their character to engage in this drow encounter, then I feel like it should be okay for SH to also enjoy the moment, clearly. She's entitled to her fantasies and if PC is living out theirs, then SH should be able to do so too. What I'm saying is that if player character does NOT want this, and they ultimately say no to the drows because PC feels like they're in a committed relationship with SH and does not want to jeopardize this, then it just feels weird to have Shadowheart disapprove. PC did NOT engage partner in a sex fantasy, they rejected the idea of it because it didn't suit them, and partner gets upset. That's what I mean here.
Having one part in a relationship thirst for someone else and get disappointed that they're not allowed to fulfill their fantasy is grounds for breaking up in my opinion. Fantasies are fine, but not the disapproval.
She can approve of the drow meeting if player engages in it, but I don't think she should disapprove if player doesn't go through with the encounter. A disapproval on the other hand would be valid should the player engage in said encounter without Shadowheart.
