That's kind of my point when I say that it should be player choice. If player wants their character to engage in this drow encounter, then I feel like it should be okay for SH to also enjoy the moment, clearly. She's entitled to her fantasies and if PC is living out theirs, then SH should be able to do so too. What I'm saying is that if player character does NOT want this, and they ultimately say no to the drows because PC feels like they're in a committed relationship with SH and does not want to jeopardize this, then it just feels weird to have Shadowheart disapprove. PC did NOT engage partner in a sex fantasy, they rejected the idea of it because it didn't suit them, and partner gets upset. That's what I mean here.
Having one part in a relationship thirst for someone else and get disappointed that they're not allowed to fulfill their fantasy is grounds for breaking up in my opinion. Fantasies are fine, but not the disapproval.
She can approve of the drow meeting if player engages in it, but I don't think she should disapprove if player doesn't go through with the encounter. A disapproval on the other hand would be valid should the player engage in said encounter without Shadowheart.
Let's not re-write how this play out. The dialogue tree brings you to the proposal from the drow to have sex between both of them and you and your partner. At this point you have the clear option to go with "yes" or "no". Shadowheart does not express any interest to go along with this until you actively press "yes" to this proposal, at which point YOU have made the decision to move your relationship away from a monogamous relationship. Only after you have made this decision about your relationship status does horndog Halsin inject himself and the disapproval reactions occur. There are really no confusing flags or messages in this whole scenario, you have made the conscious decision to take your relationship with Shadowheart towards sexually experimenting with others. Her enthusiasm or preferences as to who she wants to include in these sexual games are inconsequential at this point, this is what you wanted!
So based on what you say, I think we agree on this one. What sort of relationship you want with Shadowheart is very much up to the player and there is no scenario where this just happens out of the blue or by accident.
