I think this is just an agree to disagree moment. My Tav's story revolves around Minthara's current route and I felt like I had more fun developing a character that fits within specific cultural constraints (in this case drow culture) rather than just a free spirited broadly good aligned person. I can't really see most of the complaints about the current path to Minthara as anything other than people just upset that it doesn't align with their own personal tastes/values. Me personally? I don't like seeing the Tiefling die. You'd probably have to be a real weirdo or monster to genuinely enjoy killing such a passive group of people who are already struggling. But I am not my Tav, she's just an OC I made to explore character development and culture within the general dnd lore that I find interesting. If Minthara didn't exist I'd still base my Tav around drow cultural norms.
I also have no clue where you're getting the idea that it's supposedly ooc for her to have killed the people in the grove when she literally says in Act 2
that it was the Absolute's influence on her.
It's part of her development.
Anyway I don't think I'm going to get much more out of this discussion because the constant talk of knocking her out as somehow being a more acceptable path than.. what Larian has currently written is super uncomfortable and weird imo.
How is the knockout discussion uncomfortable in any way? It’s a mechanic for recruiting another character and for saving several npcs in mind control situations. Attacking the grove is out of character for her and that’s what she is telling the player in that line; Minthara tends to not pick needless evil options and is more utilitarian