I understand that it works for you. If they wish to keep that option open for you, that's fine. However, a single line of choice does not make a good RPG, and in this case, his character is super problematic on many fronts. He is not my romance, either, fyi.

What you and the author refer to as "poly" is very limited and objectified/over-sexualized version of real poly culture. What makes poly relationships work is when both parties are heard and communication is open. Poly =/= having sex with as many people as possible, by refusing to take no for an answer, love bombing, and glomming the existing relationships of others.That isn't poly, it's creepy and abusive.

What you refer to as him handling his trauma, is not a healthy way to do so. He portrays as having an addiction to sex, a fear of commitment, and the use of sex as an escape. From what I read above he's even used it as a weapon. Not only is he not handling his own shit, but he's giving mixed signals - what he says and what he does do not align. He is spreading his pain to others.

It isn't the sex or the FWB. It isn't the lack of commitment. It isn't the idea of Poly character.

It is the lack of positive representation of poly individuals. It is the abusive behavior. It is the verbal espousement of anti-commitment with all the love words and persistence of a relationship. It is the lack of choice provided - the player can't even get him off their back by saying No. It's the lack of respect he has for sex.

The most offensive part is that this was created with the expectation of gratitude on the part of the Halsin-manners, the poly community, and the wider identity justice movement. Thank you, but no thank you - don't represent poly individuals without doing your homework. This is the poly version of 50 shades for the BDSM community.

Shame on the author, shame on the company. They could do better, and if they were madly in love with this dumpster fire, they could have at least made it optional.

Last edited by AddyJenkins; 25/09/23 01:12 PM. Reason: Added