I don't think the game intend to "immerse" you with the world. Not with the amount of meta information currently given to you.
The only suggestion I can give is: Say no.
Wyll and Gale will approach you if you are goody two shoes, but once they rejected, they will not approach you.
They're adults, they can handle the "no" - and you can still progress with their quest.
I was going to say this same thing. Maybe it's because I'm a woman, but I'm terribly used to unwanted people insisting on flirting with me, and I just say no. In fact, some insist even when you tell them no, so in reality I see it as quite realistic and it doesn't spoil my immersion XD
Yea, I guess, it'S no wonder, it'S mostly men complaining here, because we women are sadly used to that in real life. At least Wyll and Gale get the hint (not Halsin though - he is the perfect despiction of a 'nice guy'). So if the game does one thing, maybe men playing it and are put off by the unwanted attention might think twice before hitting on a woman again, just because she is friendly
Even if I do feel like having everyone hit on you is a little too much, most of them do take no for an answer, so I don't really feel like it's that much of a problem.
- Shadowheart had never bothered be after telling her no. Once I even allowed her to share wine with Tav one night at camp because she didn't exactly say it was a romantic thing, then I simply chose to toast to friendship, and there was clear disappointment in SH's voice then and there, but she toasted back and then that was it. We were friends.
- Same with Karlach, you can just chose friendship options.
- I told Wyll no, too, and he hasn't brought it up. First round I played, I recruited him quite late too, and he never even came on to Tav at all.
- Astarion has never bothered me after a quick "no" either.
- And Gale, well, Gale is kind of bugged a little in this matter I think. He's a bit pushy to be honest, but at least he's cute about it (not like Halsin). I told him "no magic" and still he returned at a later stage telling me how he'd read about how people could get horny after fighting or something, implying that he wanted something more with Tav. Then I had to break up with him, but that was probably my fault too because I just said "screw it" and chose "I could have written the book". Never mentioned being horny for him though, he just assumed. LOL.
- And Halsin, well, I haven't been able to tell Halsin no. *shame on me* But I will. Next time, I must do it. Unfortunately, I already know he, of all people, is the one who won't take it well.
