It's great that you got the representation you wanted.

I repeat: it's a poor business strategy to choose such a limited and very self-focused ideals for a character that was specifically requested on the basis of things like permanence and loyalty.

But again, I am glad you're happy and got exactly what you wanted.

However, these repeated monologues also demonstrate what it is that people are complaining about with Halsin: The inability to accurately sympathise with the emotions of others and support their independent needs and wishes, even when they do not align with one's own priorities.

It negates the emotions of others and their involvement, concentrating only on one's own desires with very little interest for those of others.

Halsin is a very kind and warm person, who demonstrates a live style that is entirely absorbed in his own wishes and desires before those of others. He has no interest in Tavs wishes or desires and actively ignores the impact his behaviour has on Tav or others in this specific area.

It could be that I am entirely wrong about RA, but from my personal experience there is a great deal of consent, respect and emotional depth to this form of life style for it to not be toxic.

I also recent the implication that my prefered relationships style is assumed based on calling out toxic behaviour. I have been involved with the poly community for years, and have seen poor and healthy versions of it.

And like other people here who are sex positive and in the poly community, they find Halsin a deeply toxic interpretation.

No one is saying that Halsin is not entitled to his feelings or his views, but they are saying that to be a satisfying and healthy representation he needs to respect consent, boundaries and compromise.

That is how healthy relations are built and nourished in any type of relationship - permanent or not, romantic or platonic. And these are qualities that are severely lacking.

Also, your views and interpretations are of course as valid as anyone else's, and I am willing to believe that was the intent. But had this been good writing, representation and shown in a sympathetic manner that actually she'd a positive light on this minority, then we would not be having this long of a discussion.

As for sex, I have not seen a single person her say that being sexual was a problem. Making light of sexual trauma is a problem - and while you are entitled to your opinion, ther is also a reason why Halsin is triggering SA left and right, when even Astarion doesn't, and that people who work in the field of SA are asking for a rewrite because it sets a dangerous precedent.

It is lovely that you have a life style that appeals to no commitment or emotional responsibility to others before your own (at least that is how I interpret what you are writing, as it is never addressed how his behaviour actual impacts others than himself. I apologise if this is incorrect).


Description of poly/RA abuse:

" If your partner brings up the option of non-monogamy as a demand or stipulation for the relationship to continue, then that’s cause for concern. Your partner should never make you feel like you must bend over backwards to fulfill their desires, especially if it is something you aren’t comfortable with."

This is exactly what Halsin does.

But you loose absolutely nothing from Halsin to be more fluid in his approach:

Relationship fluidity:
"For some couples, being fluid simply means that they’re willing to try new things from time to time; for others, it may mean that their relationship is constantly evolving and changing.

Ultimately, the level of fluidity in a relationship is up to the individual partners to decide."

Note the last part. That is the one that requires a conversation and means exactly that a fluid relationship is on of discussion, compromise and agreed on terms.

This is NOT a yes or no conversation.

Halsin's definition what this means at present is extraordinarily frigid and inflexible for a man, who claims to be understanding, respectful and seeking balance.

A rigid ultimatum of "this is how this will be, no discussion" is anything but finding balance.

This is why this very extreme form of polygamy and relationship fluid does not fit his character.