Worth mentioning also... BG3 has a portion of the fault here, since it forcefully assigns you the Baldurian background tag, and you have absolutely zero say in this and no capability of choosing otherwise, or even suggesting that you might not be from that city. It really shouldn't do that.
Indeed. I found it very hard to take my barbarianism serious when the game offered to let me recount memories from my upbringing in the city. Instead, I would have appreciated special dialogue options in which articles and words in excess of two syllables are omitted. I would like to be able to roleplay a barbarian who spits on civilisation and big city politics.