That's both lovely and heartbreaking. I am so so sorry. I have spoken out against how this was handled since the beginning and I have recieved no small amount of harrassment for it: I have been told my feelings are invalid, that I am not respectful of how different people handle trauma, and that me pointing it out (somehow) makes me a homophobe.
It's stories like yours that makes me take this without remorse, because I don't want you to feel alone and wrong in your own skin, as a safe place that is supposed to give you relief from all of this, turns into a nightmare.
I am sorry, and thank you for your courage. <3