I really appreciate this and I'm sorry you've had bad experiences with this. I got a lot of negative comments when I posted about this on reddit so I tried to be really clear that I'm not trying to upset anyone in my post. I've heard a lot of excuses for the scene and it just makes me feel so tired. Sometimes I don't even have the strength to argue.
If it helps, I don't think it's homophobic at all and have no idea how they got to that conclusion. I'm literally gay married to a man and I would have to give the most bad-faith, intentionally hostile reading of the criticism to get homophobia from it.
I admire your bravery for speaking up as well, and I hope you're doing alright.
