...I don't know how I feel about this.
On the one hand, Astarion reclaiming his own agency over his sexuality is a big moment for him. The graveyard is clearly a big step for him and he politely asks you for it so he definitely has sexual urges, they just haven't been used for intimacy in a long long time.
But then, even after all of that, if you pursue the drow scene, they say he's disassociated from that moment and becoming detached which means they very realistically don't expect he'd be okay jumping back in with both feet (still detest not having the option to pull him out of that once your Tav notices that).
All of this leads me to believe that, while clearly traumatized, that doesn't mean Astarion is asexual/demi. And that him taking steps to work through his trauma involves learning to enjoy sex again. It isn't an identity he has, it's a step toward healing.
Overall, I'd say he wouldn't be the best candidate...but being that I'm not asexual/demi myself, I might not understand all of it completely.
I honestly thought the best candidate for this was Halsin. He's lived many lifetimes, had many lovers, but made it clear it doesn't hold the same appeal it once did. He marks you as a romantic partner but insinuates that he won't pursue anything further unless his responsibilities are taken care of. Even a lot of asexual examples exist in nature that he could draw from.
But they took him in the completely opposite direction which seemed tone-deaf to me especially considering he tried to rope Astarion or Shadowheart into it...
If this wasn't the case, Halsin would be a great option in my opinion.
Last edited by vx_phoenix_vx; 08/10/23 12:37 PM.
