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We are throwing a lot of terms around like relationship anarchy and polyamorous, so I am going to give some description and then point out why they don't apply to Halsin:.
Most would like to see healthy Polyamory and relationship anarchy represented. Halsin is unfortunately a bad example of this because (among other things) it is presented at an ultimatum, not a discussion. Which is ironic since he encourages you to discussion with your other romance if you have one.
Polyamory
Healthy polyamory involves engaging in consensual, non-monogamous relationships where all partners openly communicate their desires, boundaries, and needs. Respect for each individual's autonomy and emotional well-being is paramount, as is the establishment of clear relationship contracts or agreements that outline expectations and boundaries. Successful polyamorous relationships often require compromise, empathy, and ongoing communication to ensure the well-being and satisfaction of all involved parties.
Why not Halsin?
What Halsin proposes as Polyamory is something that has no obligation or responsibility to one another. He also directly denies the word relationship, which is not accurate. Polyamory is having more than one romantic relationship and nurturing those relationships with great care and affection.
While Halsin is caring and affectionate, there is never an actual commitment towards investing effort in the relationship. Therefore Halsin simply doesn't live up to the Polyamory representation - quite the opposite.
Relationship Anarchy
Relationship anarchy prioritizes personal autonomy and freedom, emphasizing that relationships should be defined by the individuals involved rather than predefined norms. It thrives on consent, respect, and freedom of connection. While there may not be formal contracts, communication and mutual agreement are essential, allowing for flexible and unique relationship dynamics that honor each person's desires and needs.
Why not Halsin?
There is the misunderstanding that relationship anarchy is the distaste for relationships, but that isn't accurate. Relationship Anarchy is the distaste for society to dictate the shape of the relationship over the personal preferences and values of the people in the relationship.
By Halsin denying it being a relationship, upon Tav asking, and then he ALONE defining what it is between them without input for Tav, is deeply toxic. RA is about respect, communication, compromises, and accepting change in the relationship as necessary for the people involved and not for outside dictation.
Okay, so now we have concluded that Halsin is neither poly or RA, but actually only interested in casual flings without any personal responsibility. But if Halsin where to be defined as RA, is such a thing possible as RA?
Monogamous RA
Monogamous relationship anarchy is an approach where two people in a committed, monogamous relationship apply some principles of relationship anarchy. It emphasizes individual autonomy, consent, and mutual respect within the context of a monogamous partnership. This means allowing flexibility in defining the relationship's rules and roles while maintaining a commitment to one another, fostering a unique and open monogamous connection.
These two subjects are inherently complex and often people misuse the terms, and use them for abusive purposes, which have nothing to do with these life styles.
If we want Halsin to represent Polyamory and RA then he needs to be given the one thing all the other romances have: Player agency, compromise and respect.
