I believe you misunderstand the issue that is being brought up. It isn't about the people, it's about the content itself. Optional filter would absolutely solve all the problems for all parties - you will still have non-straight non-male content to enjoy intact, while people who do not like it will have an option to never encounter it. It woud work in reverse as well - you would be able to turn off the straight male oriented content if you so desire. I see no issue with it whatsoever, unless specifically making people look despite them not wanting to while playing the game is the aim, and I don't imagine it is.
I don't know, if you mean me, since you didn't bother to make that clear, but I don't dislike anyone, nor do I have a problem with filters, I even explained in the post above, how that could work in game ( and does already work for some characters like Shadowheart, Astarion and Lae'zel, which make me think that the other characters just have their flaggings wrong), I called someone jokingly out on a not so nice comment.