But hypothetically. If you solo romance Halsin and go to the twins SH doesn't want to join? Do I have that right?
That makes sense and even seems like good writing to me.
SH is happy to explore in the context of the relationship but isn't interested in seeking out sex on her own. Once she has a secure base, once she feels love, she feels free to explore other feelings. Just like a dungeon delve - first secure a base camp and then go looking for adventure.
You snide tone isn't helping the discussion. Drop it.
And yet you say she was comfortable having casual sex with her fellow sharrans? It was never explicitly stated she was in love with someone while there. So who was it that gave her a "secure base" to explore casual sex there?