You might interested to read the account of monogamish woman who hires sex workers.
The idea that marriage about safety and security and once you have those basic needs met you can get other needs met. That's why the 'no to sharing' at the party and no to twins 'until we've been together' makes sense. SH needs to feel secure in the relationship, to feel like she is first in Tav's heart and *then* involving others sounds fun
Drows is the different scenario though, because party doesn't end in sex or anything. Drows are just sex workers and she does it with Tav obviously. She is just kinky and ok with some casual sex and ok if Tav wants some, just a reminder that she doesn't ask or do herself, she is fine with only Tav, she joins drows if asked. Thats why I consider her in "open monogamy" with Tav. And yes she basically proposes marriage at her lower city confession.
If they fix Halsin interactions - everything would fit.
It's like you have her romance with Tav and only Tav throughout the whole game, then there's this weird fetish fan fiction section tacked into it.
If they wanted her to be polyamorous they should have made it clear from the beginning. And they should have added options for lesbians and straight men. Not this half assed attempt at polyamory that has left a lot of SH and Halsin fans disappointed, confused, and even disgusted at times. It's treated as a gimmick.
Larian treats polyamory like garbage in this game, and I dont think we should be defending it here. It's not just a few lines with Halsin. It's the fact that they treat both SH and Halsin as sex dolls/porn stars as soon as polyamory/casual sex gets involved. Is that how they view polyamory or ppl who engage in it? Is this how ppl who play this game will view polyamory? They could have treated it like an adult would, but instead it just looks childish and like they didn't even give a shit.
