@TheRedQueen

And I thank for you kind comments about poly people.

At your request I will avoid any discussions about the quality of research and I'll not link to research articles. I will continue to send links to opinion articles when I think they are relevant to the discussion. In this case I did so because one of the claims made was that a relationship couldn't considered poly / ENM if sex workers were involved. So I thought an article from a married woman who - in consultation with her husband - hired sex workers was relevant to the discussion. We are talking about the game but when claims like "this isn't the way it works" are brought up I thought I think links to pages with definitions aid the conversation and I do think have helped Netav and I come to some points agreement.

I will continue to be very light on the "report" button - as you know I only flag the worst of the worst. (looking at you Dubai call girls) I'm a killer rabbit - most of the time I try to be nice but I can be pretty aggressive when attacked. Calling mods tends to lead to retaliation and the discussion devolves into a game where people goad each other in saying something that could be flagged.

And I appreciate that you are tolerant - if I were to flag something I would Rosten's post. Because I think the claims of "subtle manipulation" are form of trolling. The purpose of which is to invalidate any statement that begins with "in my view" and which I do perceive as an attack since it questions my sincerity and indeed my character. (as you know I have strong feelings about manipulation)


But you were obviously okay with it so I don't want to flag it. Even as I call out @Rosten for playing dirty and acting like an ass.

But, my dear sweet @Rosten I think I've done that repeatedly. SH is okay with Mizorra if you ask, she's okay with Halsin if you ask, she's okay with the twins if you satisfy her criteria. So, if you read the articles I linked your question would answered. I saying you are not ethically non monogamous but you are okay with your partner sleeping with other people under certain conditions is bit like saying you aren't vegan but you don't eat any animal products.

It's intriguing position, one that tells me that you have some reason for avoid the 'vegan' label even if you actions make you - by any / all objective criteria - a vegan.

TL;DR if you have foursomes / fivesomes with your partner, if you give you partner permission to sleep with others you are something other than monogamous and 'poly' works as a catchall.

Last edited by KillerRabbit; 17/10/23 10:37 PM.