oh wow ok, @Thorvic your advice was great!
This is still a bug, since it doesn't trigger when you arrive to Grymforge, BUT if you interact with the rubble and you speak with Nere through the tadpole, the timer starts and if you leave him there he eventually dies
It's still a bug since it's supposed to trigger anyway, and it makes no sense advancing to act 2 with the gnomes still there