Yeah honestly, I complain about this game a lot but I don't get what people mean when they say it's too horny. I mean, all I really know is:
1. Lae'zel is very forward, but then again she's from an entire other alien culture so who knows how gith are usually.
2. Gale seemed to have problems taking no for an answer, but from what I understand that was a bug.
3. It can feel a little weird early on when so many characters are flirting with you (because you recruit so many people and they want to give the opportunity to have their romance initiated ASAP I guess.)
But that's really it; I really don't know what people mean when they say that it's pushed on players or it's "Sleep with me or I dislike you." There's other criticisms I have (namely all the romances seem pretty shallow) but I never had this problem rejecting people.
I totally agree. I was only interested in Shadowheart and rejected the other advances. Danced with Wyll but went no further. Looked at the night sky with Gale and went no further. We stayed good buddies and they never bothered me again.
And Shadowheart... was hard to get. Reading some comments makes BG3 look like some kind of porn game, but there's less nudity here than on prime time television.
I think what probably feels the weirdest to me is the fact that romances will initiate even if you spend pretty much zero time with the person; a consequence of the camp system.
Like, comparing it to BG2. There was no "camp". If you booted someone from your party, or weren't traveling with them, they were kinda off doing their own thing. (They could be recruited again in a tavern, but they weren't assumed to be traveling with you.) As a result, romances only initiated with people you *actually traveled with*, and there was a lot less opportunity to swap characters around. (If I remember right, removing your romance from the party actually broke the romance? Maybe I'm remembering wrong.)
In BG3 the background assumption is that members of your party, even when they aren't with you, are in your camp. But imo, this feels weird with the romances sometimes. Like Gale, I never bought him with me ever (because my MC was a wizard). And yet his romance triggered, and then even when I rejected him I still got the weird confession scene later too. It felt very strange because it seemed to me like *I had spent barely any time with him at all.* But then other characters that I had with me all the time (namely Karlach), I somehow apparently missed their romance triggers because I never got an opportunity to romance them.
