Also, high approval Astarion confession USED to be impossible to miss too (all you had to do was enter MT and talk to Ketheric and if you were on very high you'd get the 'you are incredible' scene) but in patch 3 it was bound to killing Yurgir for Astarion (after having triggered the part of Raphael's deal with him which you on purpose didn't take him to).
The only thing I can agree on is that Raphael should come and translate Astarion's scars if he was spoken to about it in LL.
But the rest, sorry, no. You metagamed yourself out of the romance sadly.
Kinda wish the confession was still tied to high approval - but that's my personal preference and irrelevant for the current game version.
As for metagaming out of the romance, I don't agree that this is entirely accurate. During Act 3, the dialogue option
"We haven't spent a night together in quite some time...", implies the relationship is still on-going at that point.
After unlocking Necromancy of Thay fully, it's still there.
After completing Astarion's main quest, after he expresses gratitude for the player's help with Cazador, the dialogue line is still there.
And even after you trigger that dialogue line, it doesn't disappear. You can repeat that scene over and over again.After this many playthroughs, I'm at a point of exploring what the web of conversation and outcomes looks like and I believe I've found this path to be currently buggered. So I'm just making a note of it here and hopefully there will be a fix in the future
