Just made an account today to echo this sentiment and express extreme disappointment with this change/bug in patch 4. The ascended romance scene has been built up for me for so long and getting to it during this patch was really underwhelming.
I hope the censorship was not purposeful, and I cannot imagine why it would be unless people (likely straight male players or just prudes) have complained about it. It would be stupid to listen to that kind of feedback for SEVERAL reasons, but if I may be so bold: Astarion fangirls/boys/theys are DRIVING the fandom and crazy success of this game. Those are the fans whose feedback should be listened to. Not only for fanservice purposes but for marketing reasons as well -- with that said I'm going to hold out hope that this ISN'T the case and it's just a camera angle bug that will be fixed soon. Along with kisses.
Anyway, I love you Larian - you spoiled us with such an amazing game and story that now it's hard not to be a brat about it when this happens! :p