First of all, I think it's brave of you to come on here to express your concerns. I am not a man, but I grew up predominantly around boys and young men and that definitely gave me a unique window into the harmful ideas perpetrated between men and boys about SA. While I myself am a survivor too, again my voice in this conversation is only lent to amplify yours, which is arguably more important.
I got this scene yesterday and it also left a bad taste in my mouth. People use the argument of "well he is old and it was a long time ago"...
He spent 3 years
That sort of trauma does not just get better with time if you ignore it. And again I get that people respond differently and there are different trauma responses, but I do believe this should be addressed in that conversation, that this is not healthy. My hopes for the datamined dialogue is that it has not made this patch because it is a draft and will be further worked on. But it is some improvement!
I feel like Halsin with some work in how that revelation is addressed can become a source of healing to many in the same way Astarion is, but not by just joking about it and Tav just stands there like "alrighty then, if you say you enjoyed it!".
As a side note, I also hope we get a modification in the Astarion drow scene, where we can pass an insight check and stop it halfway through once we realise
. Enthusiastic consent is generally already implemented in the game (you always have like 3 chances to back out before any intimacy scene, not to mention my Tav nodding to give permission for some acts during the scenes thrmself). I see no reason why there its just "welp, I guess I'm stuck doing that even though I noticed he is not enjoying himself".
