I wrote about this in another topic, but decided to create a separate one. Me and several other players noticed a strong difference in the dialogues between Ascended Astarion and Spawn Astarion. The difference comes from the player's character and this seriously interferes with the role-play.
You can see Tav's answers for Ascended Astarion. I assure you, at this point he did not say or do anything offensive towards our character. He just asked
"What do you want". This dialog has a good option at the beginning:
"I just wanted you to be happy" But then there is not a single positive or neutral answer option. There is many options that provoke conflict. The option "I want you" and then the clarification "YOUR BODY" even seems offensive to me. But if someone wants to play bad_guy_tm, it's appropriate. However, for a character who is happy with everything in this situation, there is no suitable option. What option could there be?
"Now I just want to get rid of the tadpoles"
"I want to be with you" (have nothing to do with the body) etc Astarion will still offer us the "gift of eternity", but it is much better when he does it himself. "I want to be a vampire like you" option sounds selfish, as if we used him. We have only the last two possible answers, which create an atmosphere of aggression and conflict. In this situation, which is funny, the aggressor is not Astarion, but our character. And all because dev didn't give us a choice to behave differently.
The latter answer simply creates a conflict out of thin air, since Astarion has called us a "pet" before and this has never caused anger. This disadvantage applies not only to Ascended Astarion.
Let's look at the dialogues of Spawn Astarion, and we will understand that you do not have a single frankly rude answer. There's also no way you can miss the tombstone scene, literally. You can't refuse, you can't leave during the scene. You can't answer spawn with "I was just having fun" or "I wanted to have a good time, but I don't want anything serious." After all, you can add the answer "I'm too tired I don't want to go anywhere." There is a similar answer for Emperor scene, when he appears in a dream and you can refuse him a dialogue. I can get out of my own head, but not from a tombstone.
Honestly, it's weird. It feels as if the writer is trying to impose they position on my character and this is unpleasant, and also interferes with the role-play. Like, "this is bad, so you have to behave like this" and "this is good, so don't you dare be rude." I think every player can decide for themselves.
Positive or neutral option should be added for Ascended Astarion.
Negative option should be added for Spawn Astarion. It is possible to break off the relationship or not go to the tombstone at all.
Please consider this possibility.
I will be glad if others support this idea.