This criticism makes a lot of sense and I agree for the most part. So much does hinge on whether you ask that specific question, for her to tell you something about herself besides Shar and tadpoles. It seems like they should make it something unavoidable instead, like something she talks about in her first romance scene.
You can be respectful of her boundaries and not pry, though, and this question still becomes available after she eventually (on her own time) reveals that she worships Shar. After a certain point, you only have to prod her a little bit (without a persuasion check), and she opens up about it.
I felt good about the Shadowheart romance until act three, which is where it got underwhelming for me. Sadly… because she’s amazing.
The scene at the statue of Selune on a good Shadowheart playthrough was really bad. It desperately needs something like a hug for Shadowheart and more empathetic response options for the player character.
Hugs anytime (as teased in new datamined dialogue from patch 4) would also be an awesome addition.
And of course any sort of end scene is sparse/unsatisfying since they didn’t put together an epilogue. And her Act 3 dialogue options cover irrelevant scenarios after patch 3 (like being able to comment on NOT being in a relationship when you ARE) and the kiss animation quality decreased with Patch 4.
