I thought the sex in the game was fine. If you don't seek out the sexual content on purpose you'll very likely only see one or two sex scenes, there is an option for modesty filters, and there is an entire romance without any sex scenes. There is also a more mature storyline connected to sexuality.
Overall the romance stories mirror real-life dating, everyone is comfortable with different levels of intimacy at different stages of the game.
There is a lot of hitting on Tav in Act 1, all of which you can turn down without an issue, and by Act 2 the romance matures for all characters. It's also just a personal opinion but I found most sex scenes more goofy than hot.
And yeah, all gamers are horny, but it's also something you have to seek out on purpose, like fanfiction or thirsty edits.
