Sadly i can't vote, why ever. So i gve my aqnswer here in written form: No!
I don't think the game is over sexualized. We are all adults and knew what we are buying. The romance stuff was advertised everywhere. You can always say no and most companions will respect it. That is at least my experience as a not native english speaking player.
I only tested the male options so far and think it isn't too much. Wyll fades to balck as soon as you know what's going to happen. Astarion, a bit of naked skin, but yopu can switch it off. Gale has even two options. One is more detailed and the other fades to black also. Minthara i only watched on youtube and ok,... i understand why many people kill those man poor tieflings and druids to bed her. It's not too detailed but some still may find it hot.
What i find more desturbing is the blunt presentation of a half naked Mindflayer through most of the Emperor romance scene for example. Tentacle sex is not everyone's cup of tea and i wish i could tell the Emperor to get dressed way sooner. I mean, some may like that exotic kind of sex, but it isn't everyone's thing. I wish they would chnage that scene so you have a choice.
Also i find it annoying, that companions still flirt with each other while we are romancing them. It seems like...bad manners for me if they act like nothing is happening. This makes them look like they're either emergency horny or simply don't care about our Tavs. Hello? Tav is a main character, we help our companions through all of their problems. We risk our lives for them and play caretaker for them. So main characters deserve a bit more respect, i think. I wish the companions would acknowledge the relationships of the Main character more and stop flirting if someone is taken. I wish they would react to the relationships more. That would simply make it feel more logical and realistic (as far as we can call it realistic in a fantasy RPG).
Long story short: Everything is alright, but i would wish it would be done a bit more properly.
