I can fully agree with night lunatic. The story feels very convoluted to me and often gives me the feeling, that I am not the intended protagonist. It kinda remindes me of Dragon Age 2, you remember all the advertizing, that your choices will shape the world? Well, all the choices were done by companions, but not by my Hawke. Same here, everybody has so much better reason to be the protagonist, I'm just a weapon on legs trying to follow a moral path through the game.
My jobs seems to be mostly preventing others from doing stupid stuff like "bad Minthara don't go murder hobo, I better knock you out". Or "bad Shadowheart, don't kill that nice angel lady". Or "Gale, we talked about it, no nuking of cities, especially when I am standing next to you, I don't like being nuked, bad for my teint". And so on...
Guess I have to try the Dark Urge, looks like that really connects BG3 to BG1 and 2. But I don't think I have another playthrough in me and the lack of reactivity is also keeping me from it. At the beginning playing a Drow was amazing, starting act 2 nobody seems to notice. Maybe if there is a Definitive Edtion some day, but it would to change quite a lot, e.g. returning the game to its darker EA roots.