I think you’re reading far too much into a comment one gay person said about a character. She only said she was more sympathetic towards him because he hid his true identity, which presumably relates a bit to her own personal experiences.
There’s countless stories about people/monsters hiding their true selves. Is John Carpenters the Thing really about homosexuality? What about Invasion of Body Snatches? (it’s actually well known what that’s an allegory for). Countless other stories about aliens hiding on earth, most superheroes, spies stories, undercover police, etc. All tales of people or things hiding their true identity. That doesn’t make them all about being in the closet.
PS. Women throwing themselves at men does happen. Things aren’t nearly as clear cut as the manosphere makes out.
