It's about the romance stuff diminishing the RPG genre. The romance content gets larger and more involved while the core elements of RPGs, e.g. the combat gets dumbed-down. Look at character creation players used to agonise for days over stat allocation now it's agonising for days about hair styles and tats.
If feel the latter is a reflection of people recreating their P&P characters or characters like they would P&P characters. Hairstyles, clothing, the tattoo nobody will ever see and tons of backstory you can make up while picking the right eye colour to reflect it. I prefer Origin characters but I can understand the appeal of agonising over making your character look just right for what you have in mind for them. RPG is more than romance but it is also more than combat and spending hours in character creation most not be shallow vanity, it is literally creating the character you'll spend 100+ hours with.
