If you think Minthara's love test is bizarre, you should see Astarion's where you can only get all of them right by picking the blatantly wrong answers lol.
Saying that she misses picking off her siblings one by one (something she never talked about, at least in my game) gets approval but seems to guarantee the "mildly disappointing" result.
The better choice is saying that she misses Underdark food (despite her previously mentioning being unable to properly enjoy food due to the threat of being poisoned) which also gets approval and allows you to get the "know my heart" result.
Neither "correct" answer seems rooted in her in-game dialogue. She did say that she was happy with life in Menzoberranzan despite the dangers of betrayal, but that's a far cry from relishing fratricide.
Up until that point, she talked about her upbringing too. I think it was when we first arrived at Baldur’s Gate that we learn her own mother tried to kill her when she came of age. She gave her fresh scars in return, or something along those lines, and she spoke of it with pride. So, to me at least, enjoying fratricide wasn’t a far-off guess even though she never mentioned it directly.
It would be nice if we got more of her talking about her early life. That way their dynamic would be more clear for everyone, especially those who are unfamiliar with the lore and how cutthroat the rest of her family is. Menzoberranzan is basically Game of Thrones taken to the extreme :'3
Saying that she misses her pet spiders gets disapproval, because spiders are "Lolth's creatures" - which seems odd because she was keeping spiders after Menzoberranzan, as we see in the goblin camp.
I didn't think that was odd. She was still brainwashed at the goblin camp, remember? It's pretty clear that she hates Lolth despite having served her. What I found weird was how the spiders were willing to serve an Absolute cultist, but I think they were in on it too.
Another interesting tidbit I found is if we answer that Minthara admires the gods most, she gives us approval too, but it’s the wrong answer. So she seems to hold some degree of admiration despite having a clear dislike for them. I don't think that's ever been stated clearly, here or anywhere else, but you can sort of make the connection to her desire for power.
I suppose we could explain it away as her not truly having enjoyed fighting her siblings despite laughing it off, and I like that interpretation, but I cringe thinking of the crowd who would mistake it as evidence of being "good". (She isn't. Not in the D&D sense. Not even a little bit.)
Yep, she's not a "good" person. I don't think a redemption arc would fit her either, and that's perfectly fine. My personal interpretation is she definitely enjoyed picking off her siblings one by one. I don't think there's any mistaking it in how she said it. The less siblings she had, the closer she would've gotten to becoming a Matron Mother.
I think that answer is only "mildly disappointing" because she misses Underdark food the most at that point, that's what the dryad asked. It's also important to note she also associates the food with House Baenre banquets, which are something she would no longer be able to experience due to her exile (by far her biggest loss).
