Astarion does what he wants and it's too soon and the result in this case is only to be expected. He's a big boy, he can deal with it. My problem with that scene is like, every other part of it.

Everyone goes on about how perfect he is, the pc has no say in what's happening, and in the end it's like "oh yeah and Astarion dissociated, the end." Wasn't I supposed to see this guy as more than a sex object? No?