It's interesting how differently we interpret this character. I see him as an anti-leader. It seemed to me that he kept saying it, how tiring it was, how unfit he was for it. I agree that caring for orphans is a very different story than leading a grove. However, I didn't see a happy man in the epilogue, when I watched the friendly version on YT he seemed more cheerful. With Tav it was full of melancholy and heaviness.
