If you look at other RPG video games (those nominated alongside BG3 for different awards or just the most famous examples), the games force a ton of emotions on the protagonist. BG3 is also a self-contained story written by Larian, it's not a tabletop RPG with real-time reactions from a GM or a dating sim, which prioritizes the player's emotional state.
You can imagine that your character would enjoy that, but BG3 was written and animated by Larian. If they imagine the Astarion - Tav (or Tav - any other companion) romance a certain way and it does not align with your personal preferences, though luck. It's not a failing on Larian's part. It's not even outside of what other RPG video games do.
I don't know where you got that I'm disagreeing with the story BG3 is trying to tell or that it doesn't align with my personal preference, I think I have very clearly stated I agree with their message and that I see why they're doing what they're doing and their respective limits that they have to work with as a story-driven RPG. That being said... other RPGs are constantly criticised for railroading the player's choices and emotions, this isn't new. See Fallout, Mass Effect, Dragon Age Inquisition... Larian's being rightfully praised for the amount of freedom players usually have, it's usually very well accomplished, but this was an Eh decision by contrast. I think the story/relationship dynamic they were trying to portray already came across pretty clearly without this. They want to tell a story, but they also want players to explore it freely themselves and unravel the message how they wish to, that's also clearly been Larian's philosophy. I agree that there's a trend I see amongst some players where they're looking for/imagining a story that isn't there and feeling disappointed when they find out that it's indeed not the story the game's trying to tell, and they think that's a failing on the writers' part instead of a feature that they just refused to fully engage with because they imagined something else. Basically, going to a Mexican restaurant and complaining about the lack of Sushi that you expected there to be. But I still think this specific circumstance is a bit incoherent for that context.
