However at the end of the day my feeling is that Larian changing the dynamic between 2 people so massively, half a year after game release, is overwhelming unfair to a loyal fan base. I don't know what they were hoping to achieve apart from make some AA fans feel awful and allow SA fans to say 'We told you so'.
Nothing makes sense when it comes to these kisses. I agree with everything you wrote. This topic has now been discussed in 5 different threads, where the contradictions in the plot have been mentioned, which goes to show how controversial this change is. I'd like to think they just didn't think it through when making this change, don't know how to properly portray power play dynamics in a relationship, how it might affect people on an emotional level and spark even more debates between AA fans and haters, but I don't know really. It's just upsetting, particularly when they changed it months after launch and for Valentine's Day specifically.