The more I think about it, the less I think the trapped/abused narrative even makes sense. There are many opportunities for Tav to escape the relationship if it was truly unwanted. The default assumption should be that it was chosen willingly/knowingly by anyone who gets past the kneeling and the morning after conversation.
A Tav who chose to be with the Ascendant should look just as happy and besotted as a Tav who chose to be with him as a Spawn.
