I don't usually interact with discussions online and just observe the comments like I have been doing these last couple of days on this thread. I think there are a lot more of us than is apparent when browsing online. I would certainly not interact with a thread where I see others with the same opinions as me being bullied left and right.
Patch 6 completely broke the romance for me and in BG3 romance is a huge part of the game. The faces are as everyone says insulting and horrible. My Tav is out of character, Astarion is out of character. I understand someone else may view the romance differently (although I do not see how they could enjoy it or explain away his caring dialogs) but in my playthrough it absolutlely makes no sense. Domination without respect is just bullying and submission without consent is just abuse.
Thankfully I still manage to think of Astarion fondly, what this have done is making me scared of new game patches. And my trust in the devs is in shambles.