Seramina, Thank you very much for the explanations! I apologize for the illiterate use of terms, due to my ignorance in this matter. I can edit that post if I need to (I would appreciate it if you can help me and write in private messages how best to do it so that it is properly written). Unfortunately, I don't know much about BDSM, I started to learn more about it during the game with Astarion to understand him better, and rather more in terms of psychology, I didn't know the terminology, and I used those words that I came across in sight, in conversations with other players, etc.
You have explained a lot of things very well, clearly and in detail. Including in terms of the feelings that Astarion and Tav have for each other. The first time through it took me a while to comprehend the scene of Tav kneeling before Astarion, I ended up feeling it as caring for him:
Originally Posted by Seramina
Dominant/submissive dynamics are usually misunderstood (look at 50 Shades for example), because a lot of people don't understand the submissive thing (wanting to not be in control). It usually boils down to people thinking submission is humiliating/degrading/lesser what have you; it can of course be about those (if both parties agree and it's enjoyable to them), but more often it's about being able to safely give up control to a trusted party and just not having to think; it can be about pleasing another person, or just being taken care of.
And, it seems to me that in terms of showing realistic D/s relationships, there should be two lines. A dominant partner with an unprepared person should still use "gentler" options, and what is currently shown in the game is taken very badly by many players, it's a traumatizing story. Thanks for joining us, wish Larian would listen to your arguments.
