How deranged are people to assume that Astarion is mean to his lover after he ascends? This makes me think they never romanced AA and never tried to not cause friction with him. AA is VERY romantic if you let him be. Is it toxic that you can't argue with AA? Hell yes AA can be toxic if you argue with him, but the option is still there to keep him happy and acting like he utterly adores you. The people who have never experienced this still feel like they know what we're arguing for.
You can determine AA's behavior as his partner. Is it wrong that you have to behave yourself for him to be loving? Sure, perhaps it is, but it doesn't change the fact that he IS loving if you allow him to be. Whether it's an act or not is irrelevant. It's how he has been portrayed up until this complete character change with the AA kisses.
