Friends! Journalists have already noticed our problem! An article in a German gaming publication!
Neue Astarion-Küsse in Baldur's Gate 3 wirken verstörend auf Fans und das ist der Grund ("New Astarion kisses in Baldur's Gate 3 have a disturbing effect on fans and here's why")
At the beginning of the article, the author warns the readers (hereinafter I give the quotes in English translation):
"Trigger warning: This article deals with sexualized violence."
Thanks to the author of the article - he cares about the readers' feelings and warns them.
Further down in the article you will see a truthful assessment and description of the scenes that upset us so much, as well as a link to our forum. You can even see quotes from your posts, we have been heard!
"Our character suddenly shows open aversion and Astarion continues against his consent. This turns what could have been a lustful love game with a dominant and submissive role into a violent, assaultive scene."
"In contrast, the scene is now reminiscent of domestic violence, or violence within a relationship, in which one partner crosses boundaries and shows no consideration for the other person's displeasure."
And I can't help but quote the conclusion of the author of the article:
"These are 'triggers'
People who have experienced terrible things in real life, such as sexualized violence, often react to certain stimuli that are linked in some way to the trauma they experienced.
Put simply, this means that something is triggered by the memory/flashbacks: Scenes such as the new kisses can cause individuals to relive their trauma intensely. This can have a wide variety of serious psychological consequences. Important: This has absolutely nothing to do with the casual comment: "That really triggers me".
You can imagine it as being similar to people who have been traumatized in war and hear sounds reminiscent of gunshots. This reaction cannot be consciously controlled.
Of course, not everything that triggers people can always be avoided in art. After all, this can be very diverse. But there are scenes like this that are very clear and problematic for many people. And bringing them out unexpectedly is something that could be avoided very well."
Thank you GamePro, I have nothing more to add here, thank you for paying attention to the feelings and experiences of many people.