I had a romance with Karlagh, but let myself be seduced by Minthara. This broke Karkaghs heart. Damn I felt bad. Went back to a previous save and will stay with Karlagh. If this was an oversexualised game, wouldn't it let you get a harem of lovers ?
In general, it might be my impression, but the scenes people seem to be gushing about are not the racey but the emotional ones, hugging Astarion in act 2, Gale's boat ride, looking at the sunrise with Lae'zel ...
(and of course it is this post that turned me into an old hand.)
