The moment, the very moment you aren't playing a race that uses the standard human physique, it all falls apart. Close-ups of, say, githyanki in different armors are painful to look at with all the clipping. Recycled animations that don't change no matter which race or body or gender you're playing harken back to that one shot of Shepard from ME2 in a dress with legs spread wide. If they were more neutral, it wouldn't be nearly as jarring, but, again, the feminine stride from one of the very first scenes is extremely obviously out of place once you aren't playing a female character.
Expressions and gestures make your character seem like a buffoonish moron no matter whom you are trying to play most of the time - why would a barbarian, or a particularly sadistic Dark Urge be recoiling in fear from, say, the hyenas transforming into gnolls (look at 'em polygons!) after having just recently ripped Gale's arm off?
The camerawork is very subpar compared to, say, Witcher 3, where the Wild Hunt fight scene outside of Kaer Morhen alone is simply plain gorgeous. Here everyone moves with all the grace of a sock puppet, and some moments clearly show that they were done in very different timeframes (Barcus' first dialogue had those very distinct motion-captured animations very similar to how they looked in Dragon Commander ever since he was shown during the very first gameplay reveal).
Romance scenes are laughably bad, too. Stiff, awkward, with, again, poorly placed camera angles. The naked models are so low-detail and devoid of physics that showing them this close is a very questionable decision. Reused animations are even worse here, with, say, male characters' hands not lining up with Minthara's at all, or Karlach outright ignoring anatomy at one point. Haarlep's is just downright painful to look at - if ever there was a "two dolls humping" scene, that one certainly qualifies the most.
Clothes look like they're made of clay and every close-up of, say, Volo feels like something from a decade ago. And so on. And so forth.
All that cinematics budget could have gone into much better areas, is all I am saying, with what the results are like in the end.
Agreeing with you on each point, especially Haarlep and Karlach were cruel to look at, just completely ignorant of what gender they are dealing with. This is definitely not done exceptionally well, it's bad and it's an insult to everyone who paid for this game.
As for the Tav, it doesn't help that (when I played) I only saw like 2 different facial expressions (squinting eyes or scared) and crossed arms. Add the masculine walking animation to it and I never felt really satisfied with my female Tav.
Personally, I'd say what saved this game from most of the flaws being noticed is the voice acting, that really is the only thing on AAA level for me, personally. The VAs are the ones who are capable of breathing life into the otherwise wax figure like characters.
