I'm very grateful to the modder who made this but unfortunately I won't be able to benefit as, like a lot of players, I am on console. I also have to agree with Zayir that the mod helps a lot but it does make things look a little strange at times, especially the throat grab and the kneeling animations. I'm not trying to disparage their work, but I really feel Larian should make adjustments themselves.
Since some players have been very vocal in the wish to see the Player Character looking terrified and abused, I'm coming around to the idea that a choice might be a good thing to offer as long as the game makes it absolutely specific that the expressions as they are now, may be triggering. That way anyone who wants to RP the 'cycle of abuse' where their Tav hates being with Astarion but for some reason won't break up with him and keeps asking him for kisses, can do that.
I accept this is Larian's game and it is entirely up to them if they make changes or not. That said, I will think very carefully before I purchase another game from them until it is in its definitive edition and I can be certain the content will not change. I know there are companies out there who make money out of selling abuse as entertainment, but I don't wish to give anyone who does that my support.
