YWhen you come to him in the morning, he swears, turns away and I felt like a traitor, I ended these problems with this kneeling, like, okay, you want me to kneel down, you want me to stand on my head, you want me to stand on my ears, just to avoid seeing Astarion, who is terribly offended and betrayed by me. So I myself once had a specific "failure" of an romance with him because of a misunderstanding of the situation.
Right. Those misunderstandings are not only what can break the immersion, but also what leads to what I believe are unfair accusations are abuse. In real life, you would ask why. If the game gave you that option, I don't believe that Astarion as he's currently written would be offended by that. He might refuse to explain the specifics, but he'd likely at least say, "Because it's important to me." In lieu of that, since you can't ask, your only option is to experiment and save scum, and possibly run into uncomfortable content that you have to pretend you didn't see. Even if you understand his reaction, it's still not fun to watch.
