Gale's baseline that stays the same throughout the game and in every ending is, that he desires to help others, especially help other to better themselves and improve their own situation.
Interesting! But he's selfish in a lot of ways - his remarks towards the other companions, especially when some misfortune happens to them, show that. He seems to care mostly about himself, and about Tav if Tav becomes a friend (in the romance he probably does too, I haven't romanced him, but I'm sure he will). Not only about Astarion in terms of the line after the bite scene that pissed me off at the time (he reacts pretty adequately to Ascension, by the way, compared to the tantrums of some of the other companions), but also in the video where Tav gives Shadowheart to Viconia - there's a very cold and indifferent attitude there in general. I'm not saying it's bad, he's quite logically looking out for his own well-being. And in general in BG3 companions don't really care about each other, there's no party unity, even at the end of the game, so he's not the only one, it's more like the whole game.
In Gale's defense, he has dialog when Astarion bit you and everyone found out he was a vampire. You can ask him how he feels about having a vampire living in the camp. And Gale will answer that everyone has their own burdens. No judgment. Gale and, I think, Halsin are the only ones reacting appropriately to the Ascension. That's it, the rest of us are whining. He does make an offensive joke over the burning Spavn, though. Minsk too, but whether from stupidity or not, not so offensive. Promises to give him sunflowers. Replicas of the others I don't know, it was painful to watch it every time.
But it's like with Durge. If you kill Isobel (and consequently the whole tavern, (She accidentally in valor died before Marcus. Dammon-Blacksmith was the only one I felt sorry for.)) in Act 2. Only Astarion won't give you his say "ew". The rest will read morality. I like the Astarion-Durge interaction better than Astarion-Tav, since there's more interaction and individual lines with Durge. And Astarion sees him as a kindred spirit (that's even if Durge completely resists all temptations rather than murder everyone left and right). Other than that, I agree with you on everything else, Marielle.)