I am not a huge fan of Minthara, but I would say that fixing kissing animations for Astarion and Shadowheart over simply giving Minthara some actual character dialogue and development feels like they only care about the majority and their romance fantasies.
I don't know Larians thoughts on this. But why can't players want both? Minthara is one of my favorite companions..especially as DUrge. I don't really see you comment as much other than unnecessarily provocative.